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Lesson 0.1 - Welcome!

 

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Hi, welcome! I’m so happy you’re here! In this video I’m going to talk about a few ground rules with you and just the general layout of the course so that you can take full advantage of everything the course has to offer. But first, I just want to welcome you and tell you a little bit more about the background of this course and why I created it.

I created this course with soul-connected creatives in mind, so hopefully you put yourself in that category. The photographers, the writers, the coaches, the designers, the makers and the bakers. Whatever you are, I hope that you consider yourself creative in some way. And I hope that you’re ready to let go of that perfectionism that’s been holding you back for so long, so that you can truly unleash your creative and personal potential.

The first thing I want to get off the table, is that perfectionism isn’t just about being ‘type A’ or being ‘an uptight Monica Geller type of person’. Perfectionism is a destructive and harmful thought pattern, a fear-based way of thinking about and dealing with life’s uncertainty, insecurity, and anxiety.

Whereas popular culture either glorifies perfectionism or has a very limited view on what it is, this course really has a strong emphasis on getting to a deeper level of understanding about perfectionism, how it affects your life, creativity, and/or business, and how you can deal with perfectionism in a meaningful and lasting way.

 

Here’s the gist of the theory I developed and that I turned into the Perfectionist Bootcamp process.

I believe that, instead of abusing your talents through perfectionism, you can leverage those talents to help you let go of perfectionism.

Again, popular culture defines perfectionism as a collection of traits, like diligence, strong focus on detail, conscientiousness, preference for order and structure. In line with that theory, it means that if you want to let go of your perfectionism you need to eradicate or, at the very least, tone down those traits.

But the true definition of perfectionism is this: it is a destructive and harmful thought pattern, a fear-based way of thinking about and dealing with life’s uncertainty, insecurity, and anxiety. And what do you use to achieve perfection? You employ your diligence, you put more and more emphasis on quality over quantity, you set even higher standards for yourself, and start working in a even more structured and organized manner. Basically, you turn your talents into servants to the master that is perfectionism.

But what if you could stop abusing your talents and what if you could leverage those talents instead to help you overcome those fear-based, perfectionistic thought patterns?

I could’ve called this course Perfectionist Rehab, but rehab isn’t necessary. Quitting cold turkey is not the way to go. Perfectionist Rehab conjures up the image of having to quit being diligent, detail-oriented, conscientious, structured and so on. To me, having to give that up means having to give up a large part of myself. It means having to give up some of the very most talents that set me apart.

Again, I wholeheartedly believe that when we change the way we define perfectionism and get really clear on what it is, we can recognize the fact that we no longer have to take the abuse of perfectionism, but that we can leverage our talents to take our perfectionism down a notch instead.

You can detox the negative effects perfectionism has on your life right now, free up your talents and use them to bring about tremendous change in your work and life.

 

Why I created this course

Hopefully it’s obvious at this point that I’m really, really, really passionate about:

  • helping you ease up on the control perfectionism has over your life and creativity.

  • seeing other soul-connected creatives unleash their creative and personal potential. I think that’s so powerful. To me, there’s nothing better than seeing people who are deeply connected to their soul and their values and who are not held back by their fears and still put out their creations to the world. I want to see you do that.

  • empowering creatives with the freedom to bring their ideas to life

  • providing you with a relatable, empowering, and affordable option to do so

 

Things to keep in mind

Just a couple of things to keep in mind, right out of the gate.

This course won’t work unless you do. And I’ve specifically created worksheets and action items throughout all of the lessons in order for you to get the end result that you’re looking for, which is a life no longer controlled by perfectionism. That’s going to require some critical thinking, reflecting, and soul searching on your part. You can’t game it or -heaven forbid- perfect it so it’s fast and easy. You have to feel your way through most of it. For you to do the work, make the commitment to yourself now to put in that time, put in that effort.

This course was developed for creatives with different levels of perfectionism. Also, perfectionism manifests differently for each and everyone of us. The Perfectionist Bootcamp process is an intuitive process that takes different shapes for different people. So, please just keep that in mind when we’re touching on topics that you might not recognize in your own life or that you aren’t affected by as much. Be patient, because I’ll get through the topics that you struggle with. And please remember that this course is for all people, on all ends of the spectrum.

Another thing to keep in mind is that I’m not an expert. This is just MY way, that I’ve developed over the course of researching, talking, connecting, and working with dozens of women. The process that works best for me and that I THINK I could get it the most teachable for you. But, if you disagree with something or do something in a different way, that’s fine. There’s no right way to let go of perfectionism. This is just my way, my process that I’m able to teach you and that is replicable. My rules and formulas are here to guide you, not limit you. They are no fast rules, they are guidelines that I’ve put in place so that there’s a structure to follow. Feel free to bend the rules as you see fit.

But more importantly, I’m also not an expert, in the sense that I’m not a mental health professional. Clinical research has demonstrated that perfectionism is causally related to depression, anxiety, and addiction. So... BIG disclaimer here: if you suffer from depression, anxiety, or addiction I strongly encourage you to seek help from a mental health professional. This course will still be here to help you deal with your perfectionism a few months from now. In fact, you have lifetime access to it. So, go and seek help if you need it. The course will be here waiting for you when you return.

Remember, this is going to be hard. I’m not going to present you “the four easy steps to …”. I wouldn’t trust someone who had an easy fix. This is going to be hard and difficult because life is hard and difficult. To key to overcoming difficulty is not waiting for motivation to arrive or for you to stop being afraid. The only way is to take action, to experiment, to learn, and to grow. And when things become hard, find community in the Facebook group.